Encouragement for Single Women

Encouragement for Single Women

Many women are discouraged about being single. And I’ve been discouraged as well! It has been my prayer to meet a man who models Christian character, maturity, and leadership. But in our culture, that kind of man is very rare! Sometimes it seems like marriage just isn’t in my future.

But while it’s easy to feel down about the situation, I’d like to encourage you to look at singleness from a different angle. In order to do this, I want to take you through a few passages that have been an encouragement to me. I’ve learned from Scripture that being single women shouldn’t be viewed as a negative thing!

An Opportunity for Growth

One of the most important things I’ve read about being single is that we shouldn’t let these precious years go to waste! Over the years, I’ve come to appreciate what Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7:

But I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord—how he may please the Lord. But he who is married cares about the things of the world—how he may please his wife. There is a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world—how she may please her husband.”

1 Corinthians 7:32-34 (NKJV)

During our years of singleness, we’re blessed with an amazing opportunity to grow in our relationship with the Lord. Additionally, we’re also given the ability to grow in our relationship with the people closest, like our family, friends, and fellow believers. At this point in our lives, we’re not busy caring for a family. Sure, we may be occupied with school and work. But it’s important to look for ways in which we can grow in Christian character.

Remember God’s Sovereignty

I’m also encouraged when I remember God’s faithfulness. Over and over again, the Bible reminds us that God has a plan for our lives. We may not understand why things happen the way they do. But we can be assured that God is trustworthy! It can be easy to think that we know best. And we can be disappointed when things don’t happen when we want them to. When I have these thoughts going through my head, I have to remind myself that everything will happen in God’s perfect timing. I also need to remind myself that worrying won’t do me any good.

Which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature?Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.

Matthew 6:27, 34 (NKJV)

It Will Be Worth the Wait

As single women, it can be hard to patiently wait for God’s timing. But ladies, it’s important to remember that it will be well worth the wait!

Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but when the desire comes, it is a tree of life.

Proverbs 13:12 (NKJV)

No matter how impatient we may feel, it’s important to resist (and overcome) temptation and follow God’s plan for marriage and family. As believers, we’re called to be pure and to follow God’s ways, not the ways of the world!


During the days of singleness, don’t be discouraged! God is Sovereign and will remain the author of your life story. And He knows what will happen each step of the way. Trust Him, even when you can’t see what’s happens in the next chapter. As you wait on His timing, continue to grow in your relationship with the Lord and with those around you. And grow in character. I can assure you that your future husband will be greatly blessed by the investment you make during this time!

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